Colin, the cross is an effect of vari-ND. They're quite easy to make, just 2 different polarisers together. If you're using 2 circ put one the other way round to make it into linear. But that cross effect crops up often which is why I personally prefer the straight ND110. But YMMV =)
B&W ND110 is a good filter, but has a slight orange cast. I play with it a lot. Btw, consider using it at ISO800 with a wide aperture instead of 100 with small. Means you don't have to take ultra long exposures and regret getting that focus wrong.
I usually focus close to the horizon before putting it on, then lock it by switching over to manual. Let depth of field do the rest, even at f5.6 on a wide lens you get enough. It's a pain but a 1 minute operation, tripod up, camera in, settings to use remote control, focus, lock, filter on, expose, job done.
One tip with ND110s, think more in terms of 11 stops rather than 10. ETTR really is your friend on long exposures, go under or even marginally under and your images will be to noisy in the darks to use. So always give it a bit extra.
Yes vignetting can be a problem with stacked filters at 10mm. I buy the 'thin' versions of filters for this reason so that I can have 2 without vignetting at 10mm (ND110, CPL).
Re exposure times, I have a little moleskin book with me that I carry all my notes as I make stuff in. I also printed out from the web and sellotaped in this simple ND110 chart. Invaluable.