Frank, assuming that you have PS, try this...once you are basically finished with your image, make two completely different copies, flattening both>go into HDR toning,under image/adjustments, on each of them and treat them the same with the exception of the detail slider, moving that slider way left really softens the image as a whole>soften one of the HDR toned image and adjust detail to taste on the other one>move one of those images onto the other and use Auto Align>apply a mask and brush away for softness or crispy.
Hope that I'm being clear with my explanation, used it here
Still groping