Please don't start again. Look for the definitions of the Airy disk and diffraction on Wikipedia or in other books. It's dependent on the
ratio aperture diameter and image distance. Read and try to understand. If you change focal length with a equal f-number, you're changing aperture diameter too. The only constant is the top angle of the light cone aperture diameter-image distance. See Angular aperture
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Angular_aperture
Light passing your door or window is diffracted too. It's only invisible. In a lens system the light is converged to a central point and that's where those light beams passing the material of the aperture directly influence each other. They come together in that point. See light as a beam with a width. The sharper that angle, the longer the road they can influence each other.
Diffraction in photography always exist. The question is only when it becomes visible. The answer is like sharpness: at a certain enlargement and viewing distance.
You might also search for diffraction and macro. There the f-number is replaced with the effective f-number. That's only a correction of the simplification using the f-number with diffraction. It should be image distance. The effective f-number is the ratio aperture diameter- image distance. With a magnification of 1 a difference of 100%.
As said before, just my thoughts.
George