You have certainly not offended me in any way Brian.
Firstly what I will say is that from my own experience I have never really had any success attempting to photograph small flowers, I suspect it's totally due to IQ rather than any particular difference between the make up difference between a smaller and larger subject.
Strangely, my other half looked at the images and took interest in what I explained to her, she likes your second attempt because she prefers the leaves and finds them more interesting than the flower
. For me the second shot does not enhance the natural beauty of the flower, but it could work if you wanted to show the single flower with its leaves.
As for the OOF issue, I can't see one. What there is is a very shallow DOF as we would expect but on this second image I'm wondering if it would have been possible, or more important to get the entire flower within the DOF.
Anyway, for info here is my take of how I would have tackled the first shot, it also emphasises where the focus plane was, just about perfect